Most of us, if asked, would say we want to live for a long time. More, many of us might say we'd like to live again after this life ended. This shows that we are very attached to this life and want as much of it as we can get. This, in fact, is not a source of happiness for us, but is a source of suffering because it keeps us locked in our own small perspective, unable to appreciate the bigger picture of being. We are "clinging to this life."
In the Early Buddhist Discourses, which are said to be the word of the Buddha (but remember were kept alive in an oral tradition for 400 years or more before they were written down), Buddha describes several different phases of awakening. The gist of these stages is that we gradually overcome our "clinging to life" in stages.
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Stream Enterer is free from:
- 1. Believing in a separate self or ego
- 2. Attachment to rites and rituals
- 3. Doubt about the teachings
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Once Returner has greatly diminished:
- 4. Sensual desire
- 5. Ill will
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Non Returner is free from:
- 4. Sensual desire
- 5. Ill will
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Arahant (Worthy One) is free from all of the five lower bonds and the five bonds, which are:
- 6. Craving for fine material existence (such as desire to be a soul in heaven)
- 7. Craving for existence on the level of formlessness (such as desire for life as pure intellect)
- 8. Conceit
- 9. Restlessness
- 10. Ignorance
So the goal is really to wise up and let go of attachment to existence even of the most subtle sort. This is not suicidal or nihilistic. Instead it is a natural consequence of realizing that in the greater scheme of things our ego perspective is a result of ignorance and should be dissolved so that we can cease the endless cycle of causing and receiving suffering.